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Bible Verses–Jonah 4:10–11
Then said Jehovah, You have had pity on the gourd, for the which you have not labored, neither made it grow; which came up in a night, and perished in a night: And should not I spare Nineveh, that great city, wherein are more than six score thousand persons that cannot discern between their right hand and their left hand; and also much cattle?
Bible Verse–Isaiah 54:10
For the mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed; but my kindness shall not depart from you, neither shall the covenant of my peace be removed, said the LORD that has mercy on you.
By Practicing God’s Words I Resolved the Generation Gap Between My Daughter and Me
By Juangu
In today’s society, it is hard for parents and children to communicate with each other, and this problem has been a focus of people’s attention. After exchanging a few words with each other, they will be unable to say more, and they even will continue the stalemate to such an extent that they see each other as enemies. They are family, but why do they end up in disagreement after speaking few words with each other? This problem confuses a lot of people. What on earth blocks the communication between parents and children? Wherein lies the problem?
Actually, I had such a torment before. My daughter is 18 years old. In the past, we could never have a good conversation with each other, and sometimes, after exchanging a few words, we would get angry with each other. Then, she would either keep silent and didn’t breathe another word, or glare at me and then ignore me. I thought: Most students nowadays pay little attention to study. They play with their cell phones, or fall in love, or compare with others in dining and clothing. My daughter is at the age when she should learn knowledge and pursue progress. If I don’t have more control over her, and then she will slack off in her studies and is led astray, what should I do? Therefore, I always thought of ways to control her. As long as I found a simple mistake she made, I would keep nagging at her; when I knew she didn’t get good grades in school, I always scolded her because I wanted her to study hard and enter into a good college in the future. Sometimes if she didn’t listen to me, I would say to her with an ordering and lecturing tone, “I’m your mother. You must listen to me!” I thought: There is nothing wrong in my so-doing and parents are all like that. Is everything I do not for her own good and her success in the future? However, as she got older, not only did she not listen to me, she also didn’t take me seriously. When I spoke to her, she would snort or grunt, or speak no word, or else glare at me and then storm out.
Later, I thought that as my daughter was in the rebellious phase of her youth, I should show more understanding toward her as her mother. She was a young girl, after all, so I should have tolerance for her. However, after a while, I found that she would come straight to the house of our neighbors after school. She talked and laughed with the neighbors, getting along well with them, and moreover, they talked unceasingly. This really annoyed me. I thought: You can talk and laugh even with your neighbor, as if she is your mother. What has she done for you? I have put so much effort into raising you, but you don’t even listen to me and you even treat me as an enemy. Alas! Raising you was in vain. When I kept thinking of this, my neighbor even purposely said to me, “You see, your daughter gets along very well with me. Might as well give your daughter to me.” The more she said this, the angrier I got. How come my own daughter had a lot to say to others but she didn’t listen to me—her mother—at all? It’s as if she treats me as her enemy. It really hurt me and I was always distressed about this. Once, I went to attend the parent-teacher conference and asked other parents about this problem. Many of them were like me—they felt that it was so hard to communicate with children, as if they didn’t share a common language, and that what they did and said, and also their viewpoints, were all different, just like there was a barrier between them. Maybe this was the “generation gap” that people often said.
How to resolve the generation gap between my daughter and me had been an anxiety to me. Until recently, I didn’t find the answer in God’s words, “When parents talk down to their child and say, ‘I’m your father (or mother)! You must do as I say!’ the child takes exception to this ‘must’; it’s definitely not an expression of normal humanity. … What causes what the unbelievers call the ‘generation gap’? Isn’t it that the older generation acts high and mighty, and the younger generation doesn’t like them doing so, which produces the estrangement, and leads to the generation gap—isn’t that how it comes about?” “Precisely because a parent always assumes their place as a parent and will not budge from it, keeping that status from which they will not come down, their child becomes at odds with them. A lot of things really result from the parent always assuming their place as such and taking themselves too seriously; they always see themselves as the parent, the elder: ‘Regardless of when, you won’t get escape from your mother’s (or father’s) control; you’ll still have to listen to me. You are my child. The fact of this doesn’t change, regardless of when.’ This viewpoint makes them miserable and wretched, and makes the child miserable and exhausted. Isn’t this the case?” (“What Should One Possess, at the Very Least, to Have Normal Humanity”).
After reading God’s words, I understood the reason why the generation gap emerged between parents and children. It is because we parents always stand in the position of parents to get on with our children, and think that we take great pains to bring them up, so they must be controlled by us and listen to us in all things. Once they are not obedient to us, we will lose our temper with them and never consider their feelings. Actually, children have their own thoughts when encountering something, but because we both have different thoughts regarding matters and we are not able to stand from the place of equality to communicate with our children and speak heart-to-heart with them, naturally a barrier appears between us. Thinking back to those years, wasn’t it that I couldn’t communicate well with my daughter because I held on the position of a parent and couldn’t come down from it? I always thought that I’m her mother, and because of that, she must obey me. If she didn’t, I would say to her with a tone of order and control her forcibly, which made her feel constrained and feel antipathy against me, with the result that she would rather talk with others than communicate with me. Through God’s words, I saw that what I did was not an expression of normal humanity, and that if I went on like this, the relationship between us would become more deadlocked. But how could I solve the conflicts between us? What should I do?
I continued to read God’s words, “In such cases, then, how is the truth to be practiced? (By letting go of yourself.) What does letting go mean? With what sort of viewpoint and attitude should you treat this matter in order to genuinely let go? How do you implement this letting go? It is actually pretty simple. You must be an ordinary person, and not constrained by status. Treat your children and other members of your family the same as you would ordinary brothers or sisters. Although you have a responsibility toward them, and a relationship of the flesh with them, nevertheless, the position and perspective you should have is the same as you should have with friends or ordinary brothers and sisters. You absolutely must not stand in the position of a parent, and must not hold your children back, fetter them, or try to control everything about them. You should treat them as equals. You should allow them to make mistakes, to say the wrong things, to do childish and immature things, and to do stupid things. No matter what happens, you should sit down and calmly talk with them, and seek the truth. In this way, you will be talking to them with the right attitude, and the problem will be resolved. What are you letting go of here? You are letting go of the position and status of a parent, the airs of a parent, and all of the responsibility you think you should assume as a parent; instead, it is enough that you do the best you can in terms of responsibility as an ordinary brother or sister.” “In short, the most proper relationship between children and parents is for them to understand each other, support each other, help each other, and make up for each other’s shortcomings. If you can practice this and achieve this, the conflicts between you and your parents will surely be resolved, and there will be no longer any problems” (“What Should One Possess, at the Very Least, to Have Normal Humanity”).
I found the secret of communicating with my daughter in God’s words, that is, to lower myself, let go of my position of a mother, consider her feelings in what I do and say, ask for her advice with a consulting tone and let her choose freely. This is the only way to solve the conflicts between us.
In the following days, I consciously practiced according to God’s words. When encountering things, I would put down my status as a mother to communicate with her. After her college entrance examination scores came, I hoped that she could apply to a good college in a big city and choose a major I liked. But when I thought of God’s words and also the unhappiness and pain between us, which was caused by my standing above my daughter and restricting her before, I realized that I couldn’t do that anymore and that I should practice based on God’s words. So, I put down my own preferences to discuss with my daughter and learned to respect her choice. When I lowered myself and would like to listen to her words, she told me all her thoughts about the scores and the reason why she chose these college. The more I listened to her, the more reasonable I felt her words were, and so I didn’t force her to apply according to my will. Seeing that my daughter spoke her mind to me, I thanked God in my heart and felt the pleasure and satisfaction from practicing the truth.
After a while, because of practicing God’s words, I get along better with my daughter. Sometimes she actively comes to me and has a heart-to-heart talk with me simply as friends, and I also can accept her words gradually instead of forcing her to obey me. Sometimes when she says or does something wrong, I will not stand in the place of parents to lecture her, and instead, I deal with these things and communicate with her in a calm mood, with the result that we become friends little by little. Sometimes she will come to sleep with me in my room and speak her heart to me. Not only are we a mother and a child, but we also have become intimate friends. This is the outcome of God’s words in me.
It is only now that I understand thoroughly that it is not a difficult thing to communicate with children. As long as we can practice according to God’s words, letting go of our status and pride and learning to get along with our children on an equal footing, naturally we will live in harmony. This is the secret of communicating with children.
Bible Verse–Isaiah 54:8
In a little wrath I hid my face from you for a moment; but with everlasting kindness will I have mercy on you, said the LORD your Redeemer.
Bible Verse–Isaiah 49:15
Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion on the son of her womb? yes, they may forget, yet will I not forget you.
Bible Verse–Psalm 46:1
God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
Bible Verse–Psalm 34:18
The LORD is near to them that are of a broken heart; and saves such as be of a contrite spirit.
A Kitchen Tale
By Liangliang
“Do you think I’m handsome? What do you say?” asked Chef Erpang abruptly in the back kitchen. He stood 1.7 meters and weighed nearly 90 kg. We roared with laughter and said jokingly, “Yes, yes, yes. You’re so good-looking. …” After laughing, I remembered the truth of being an honest person a sister fellowhiped about in a meeting some time ago. She said that an honest person always called a spade a spade. So I said to Chef Erpang earnestly, “You’re remarkably fat and not at all handsome.” On hearing the truth, he laid the spoon down and came up to me. Then, putting one of his strong arms round my neck, he said, “Zhang, say that again?” I knew that our relationship was the best in the restaurant, so I said to him again bravely, “Even if you strangle me, you’re still not handsome but you are remarkably fat.” After hearing my honest appraisal, he had no choice but to let me go. This elicited a fresh burst of laugh.
That afternoon, on my way to a church meeting I was in high spirits. It was the first time I had practiced being an honest person ever since I had started believing in God for over a year. Nowadays, people all take it for granted that those who say very nice things are popular and those who speak in a very straightforward manner are unpopular, and I was no exception. After the way I practiced that day, I felt it quite easy to pedal my bicycle. No sooner had I entered the parlor of the meeting house than I said excitedly to the brothers and sisters, “Today I practiced the truth of being an honest person….” After hearing my experience, they all grinned from ear to ear. Then one sister said, “This is not the practice of being honest people.” “What? It’s not the practice of being an honest person? Doesn’t being an honest person mean calling a spade a spade?” I asked, puzzled. She answered, “To be an honest person is to refrain from impurity in our speech and to tell the truth. That’s right. But most importantly, we should have no deceit in our hearts and have normal relationships with others. Don’t steer the middle course. Don’t be crooked or crafty. Don’t act in a slick way. Especially when it comes to personal interests, we can easily give up on our own intention to be honest. …”
After the meeting finished, on my way to work I contemplated the principles of being an honest person that were fellowshiped. I prayed to God silently, “O God! Through the sister’s fellowshiping I’ve come to know a bit of truth of being an honest man. May You arrange people, matters, and things to train me so that I can become a truly honest man.” God heard my prayer and arranged a situation very soon …
One day after breakfast, true to form, I was preparing the ingredients for cooking in the kitchen, where the boss, Chef Erpang, and other colleagues were all busy. Having cut the meat into slices, I recollected that the twice-cooked pork slices sold very well the day before, so I should prepare more pork slices. Then I looked in the refrigerator for the frozen meat, but could not find it, even after repeatedly searching for quite a long time. I was surprised, “Why, where’s the meat? I remember that the boss bought it yesterday. Has it grown legs and run away itself?” When I closed the refrigerator, it suddenly came to me that the pork was still in the big steamer, so I quickly went over to it. I had hardly opened its door when an odor of dead mice assailed my nose. I shut it quickly; my heart thumped. “I’m finished! I’m finished! I’m finished! Over 10kg of meat has been spoiled. What can I do?” I thought. I was immediately scared out of my wits. Just at the wrong time, the boss suddenly came over to me. He frowned and asked, “Why is there a smell of dead mice?” I didn’t dare to respond, because I didn’t know what to say. He did not ask again and left soon. Then I said quickly to Chef Erpang, “Actually, the odor of dead mice the boss just smelt is …” Then I opened the steamer. “Kid! Why were you so careless? How could you forget to take it out yesterday? …” said Chef Erpang aloud, surprised. I interrupted him anxiously, “Hey! Stop saying that! What am I going to do? That’s over 10kg of meat.” He thought for a second, and replied calmly, “No matter, Lao Zhang. I’m experienced in these matters. Listen to me. Wash it in cold water first, and then freeze it in the freezer immediately. We can sell it all the same.” I lost no time in doing so, but a thought suggested itself to me after I’d washed several pieces of meat: “Isn’t this trying to deceive everybody? I should admit my mistake to the boss because it’s surely my fault, which is what an open and above board man would do.” But then I changed my mind and thought: “If the boss finds out, he will not only dock my salary, but will definitely let fly at me with a stream of abuse.” At this last thought, I said tentatively to Chef Erpang, “Or … I might as well tell the truth to the boss? …” Chef Erpang hastened to cut in, “You’ve let me know, that’s enough. He will dock your salary if you tell him, and will probably scold you.” He said what I was thinking, and so my faint idea of avowing to the boss was abandoned right away. Then I hastily began to wash the meat again.
At around 2 p.m., on my way back to my dormitory, it felt quite hard to pedal my bicycle because I knew I had made a mistake. When I got home, my uneasiness became hard to bear. I suddenly thought of my last prayer, in which I’d begged God to arrange a situation for me to practice being an honest man. I thought: “Right! On the face of it, my encountering that matter was bad luck, but if I can seek the truth and be honest in compliance with God’s will, my spiritual life will grow, which cannot be purchased with any material thing.” After thinking of that, I came before God to pray, “O God! You answered my last prayer. But when this thing happened to me today, my heart wasn’t quiet before You in order to seek the truth, which left me exhausted mentally and physically. Now it has come to this point, and I fear that the boss will investigate to find who is responsible. O God! I beg You to give me direction.…” After the prayer, some of God’s words occurred to me, which are part of the principles associated with being an honest person: “Honesty means giving your heart to God, being genuine with God in all things, being open with Him in all things, never hiding the facts, not trying to deceive those above and below you, and not doing things only to curry favor with God. In short, to be honest is to be pure in your actions and words, and to deceive neither God nor man.” And God’s word also says, “In everything you do, you must examine whether your intentions are correct. If you are able to act according to the requirements of God, then your relationship with God is normal. This is the minimum standard. Look into your intentions, and if you find that incorrect intentions have arisen, be able to turn your back on them and act according to the words of God; thus will you become someone who is right before God, which in turn demonstrates that your relationship with God is normal, and that all that you do is for God’s sake, not your own. In all you do and all you say, be able to set your heart right and be righteous in your actions, and do not be led by your emotions, nor act according to your own will. These are principles by which believers in God must conduct themselves.” God’s words made me realize that an honest person can place everything in front of God and accept God’s searching. He or she is innocent and open before God, and there is no hypocrisy, falsehood, or cheating in what he or she says and does. That I forgot to take the meat out of the steamer was my carelessness in my work; it was my mistake, simple as that. However, when the boss found something was wrong and asked the cause, I only cared about my personal interests, and pretended not to know anything about it. Wasn’t this deceit? Much as I felt guilty afterward, I was still able to deliberately suppress the fact in order to safeguard my interests, to avoid being blamed by the boss, and to avert a salary deduction. Was this not deceiving others openly? God set up a situation for me to experience, and told me how to be honest; I, however, recoiled from it, and did what Erpang—who does not believe in God—said. My behavior was completely like that of an unbeliever. Thinking about this, I decided to apologize to the boss. No matter whether he would dock my salary, or scold me before my colleagues, I had to admit my fault, because this was the most elementary principle by which I, a believer in God, should act.
When evening came I went to work again. Before changing into my work clothes I went to the kitchen with a view to apologizing to the boss. Finding that the boss had not arrived yet, I spoke to Chef Erpang first, “I’ve decided to acknowledge my fault to the boss.” Hearing what I said, he quickly advised me, “You’ve told me; that’s enough. If the boss finds out, it won’t end well for you.” I had a little anxiety when hearing him say that, since I hardly ever chatted with the boss, even after working with him for so long, except for when it came to work stuff. But when I thought that God likes honest people and thought of the determination to practice the truth I’d made before I came to work, courage gathered anew in my heart, and the words of Chef Erpang then had no effect upon me. Very shortly afterward, the boss came, and just the sound of his voice made my heart gallop. So I prayed to God constantly in my heart and asked Him to give me courage. Then I went up to the boss, and, stifling my feeling of nervousness, said, “Boss, I have to admit a mistake to you.” He smiled, because I had never spoken to him so gravely and, moreover, I was making an apology. He said, “What is it?” “As a matter of fact, the odor of dead mice you smelled this morning was from the meat that I forgot to take out from the steamer yesterday. I’m sorry.” The moment I finished speaking, I felt especially relieved and had a joy beyond description in my heart. Unexpectedly, after hearing my apology, he said, “Oh, no matter. Be careful next time.” From the expression of his face, I saw that he was not angry and had no intention of reproaching me at all. At the same time, Chef Erpang was nodding and smiling at me. All of these unexpected outcomes let me really taste the sweetness of practicing being an honest person.
One evening some time later, I was eating and talking with Chef Erpang and another colleague. During our chat, Chef Erpang took a swallow of beer and sighed with emotion, “There’s one thing I most admire about you, Lao Zhang. It’s that you were able to acknowledge your mistake to the boss. … If it had been me, I would never have been able to do it.” Then he turned to our colleague and asked, “What about you?” The latter shook his head, “Neither would I.” On hearing all this, I offered up my praises to God silently in my heart, “Thanks be to God! But for God’s guidance, I couldn’t have done it either, because I was also one of the corrupt people who don’t have the truth and who need God’s salvation.”
Bible Verses–Matthew 6:25-26
Therefore I say to you, Take no thought for your life, what you shall eat, or what you shall drink; nor yet for your body, what you shall put on. Is not the life more than meat, and the body than raiment? Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much better than they?
Bible Verses–Isaiah 40:28-31
Have you not known? have you not heard, that the everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth, faints not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding. He gives power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increases strength. Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: But they that wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.
How to Discern the Wheat From the Tares? I Have a Practical Knowledge of This Question
by Fang Ying
The Bible records, “Another parable put he forth to them, saying, The kingdom of heaven is likened to a man which sowed good seed in his field: But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went his way. But when the blade was sprung up, and brought forth fruit, then appeared the tares also. … Let both grow together until the harvest: and in the time of harvest I will say to the reapers, Gather you together first the tares, and bind them in bundles to burn them: but gather the wheat into my barn” (Matthew 13:24-26, 30). Whenever reading the parable of wheat and tares, I realized that the Lord Jesus would do the work of conclusion and winnowing in the last days, through which He would separate true believers from false believers, thereby bringing the true believers into the kingdom of heaven, and eliminating and destroying the false ones. Although I understood this theoretically, I was not quite clear about how to distinguish wheat from tares. How does God reveal these two kinds in reality and how can we have some knowledge and discernment of them? This question had been preying on my mind, making me frequently pray and ponder.
One day during my spiritual devotions, I pondered this passage once again. Joining with reality, I considered: When the Lord Jesus came to earth to do His work, He walked out of the law of the Old Testament and brought the new work of the Age of Grace, spreading the way of repentance. On the Sabbath, He got people to pull out the calves that had fallen into a pit, restored the withered hand, and allowed the disciples to pick and eat the heads of grain, breaking the regulations of the law. Then those scribes and Pharisees said that the Lord Jesus broke the law by not keeping the Sabbath and thereby tried to find all kinds of accusations against Him and condemned and slandered His work. On the contrary, those who accepted and obeyed Him after hearing His words and seeing His deeds, they returned to Him and obtained His salvation. The Lord Jesus said, “He that believes on the Son has everlasting life: and he that believes not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God stays on him” (John 3:36). From this I knew that those who received His gospel and those who did not were obviously divided: Those who believed that the Lord Jesus was the Son of man, which was to say, recognized that God incarnate came to work and recognized that the Lord was the Messiah, they could accept the name of the Lord Jesus, and then prayed to Him to confess and repent. So they were forgiven of their sins and would not be condemned or cursed by the laws anymore, which meant that they were saved. There were also those true believers in the Lord who lived by His words, and were capable of having real faith in Him regardless of what trial or suffering they encountered. They were just like wheat with life, which was able to bear the fruit of faith, and would certainly gain the Lord’s blessing and grace. As for those who resisted the Lord Jesus—the chief priests, scribes, Pharisees, and the Jewish people, they did not acknowledge that the Lord Jesus was the upcoming Messiah, and did not accept His name, His work or words. Instead, they still held onto the laws of the Old Testament, and prayed to the name of Jehovah God. As a result, they were all exposed and eliminated by God’s new work, just like the tares without life being winnowed out. Similarly, with regard to those who are not true believers but seek bread to satisfy hunger though having accepted Jesus’ gospel, they simply focus on keeping religious ceremonies in their belief in the Lord. They go to church on weekends. When reading the Bible in ordinary life, they are merely satisfied with understanding some letters and doctrines, but never seek the Lord’s will or demands carefully in His words or pay attention to practicing His words. When praying, they speak a bunch of empty phrases, instead of speaking intimately to the Lord. Some of them even have no normal spiritual devotions but still can follow the trends in the world, falling into sin and living a life the same as the unbelievers. They are not believers; they are false believers, and will surely suffer the Lord’s loathing and hatred. In comparing that, my heart became much more enlightened: So, the true believers, the false believers; the tares and the wheat. They are revealed by the work of the Lord Jesus incarnate, that is, revealed when Christ begins His new work in the new age. Besides, when believing in God and experiencing the work of God, whether we treasure His work and words, get close to Him regularly, focus on seeking and practicing the truth when encountering problems, and lead our lives according to His words; this is also the key to revealing whether we pursue the truth, and whether we are the true believers or fake followers.
Now is the end of the last days—the time for the Lord to return. Similarly, of all Christians, who are the tares and who are the wheat can only be discerned and revealed through His return. So how can all such things be made clear when He comes again? In my search, I thought of the scripture, “It is time for the judgment to begin from the house of God” (1 Peter 4:17). The Lord Jesus said, “And if any man hear my words, and believe not, I judge him not: for I came not to judge the world, but to save the world. He that rejects me, and receives not my words, has one that judges him: the word that I have spoken, the same shall judge him in the last day” (John 12:47-48). “For the Father judges no man, but has committed all judgment to the Son. …” (John 5:22). “And has given him authority to execute judgment also, because he is the Son of man” (John 5:27). From these verses we can see that God will come again to do the work of judgment in the last days, moreover, judge people as the Son of man. This is because only when God incarnates Himself can He become the Son of man. In this light, when the Lord Jesus returns, He will be incarnated again to do the work of judgment. If we can know and accept God’s work of judgment, we will have the chance to be purified and saved by His work, and gain life, thus coming back to God’s family, just like the full kernels being gathered into the granary. If we are incapable of accepting the work of judgment of Christ of the last days, or incapable of truly pursuing after accepting it, then we will be the revealed tares in God’s work and will definitely be blown away by the wind, which is to say, be exposed and eliminated by His work of judgment in the last days. This depends on whether we people in the last days can know and accept it. Ultimately, God will gather His wheat into the garner, and burn the tares with fire. That is, He will bring the true believers, who are utterly purified and saved, into His kingdom. Afterward, He will use great disasters to punish and destroy all unbelievers and wicked people who have done much evil but never repent. Then, God’s work of saving us mankind will have concluded.
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